3.7 | Resilience 修复力——在感性和理性之间

今天早上，在flomo录了两段录音，分享一下。

《理性與任性之間》是AGA的一首歌，我很喜欢。

PT. 1 | THE PITT S2E9

This TV series is a gift to our century. It helps us to know what we should do to treat others nicely, and, with respect. I think we all need to learn how to treat others well because we are not educated to do this properly.

Almost all the people I know, including me, we are not that sufficient. Or we're not that capable in treating others well.

And I'm sorry for the things that I have done to some humans. They are interesting, they are good, they should be treated in a better way. But I've done something too bad for them, because of my imaturity and my pride, probably.

PT. 2 | I lOVE U I'M SORRY. | 4Wrench

居然想到了瓜西的这首歌，这个NEPO_GIRL也是占了我的光。

From time 2 time I am so freakingly regretful for deleting you at that time.

I know that you are not that rational, we are human, what we have is only LIMITED RATIONALITY. I've been trying so hard in my life to make rational decisions, reckless of me. However at that time, I was in such gravely emotional mood, eaten up all my RATIONALITIES.

I have done something so bad, I've done something so bad to you, Wrench. I'm desperately sad cause I don't even have the channel to know how would you feel, after all the terrible texts I had typed straight 2ur face.

I sent my sorry 2u, via the Wechat contact card, and you were silent all the time, cutting our contacts down when I tried to ask you to go back to our beginnings.

I want to say sorry to you straight, face to face. I don't know if we really have this chance, but I think you should be treated nicely, because you're a good person.

And I'm telling u, with all my sorries, they won't change a thing. I won't let this change a thing. You can hate me, I think u should do this hating, that's more than fair enough. But after all this things, I still want to say sorry to you. And I want you to hear it.

I don't need you to FORGIVE me. You don't need to ACT like this, OK?

JUST BE YOURSELF, THAT'S THE ONLY REASON THAT I LIKE U.

今天你身上最亮的那个点，是你面对一段已经破碎的关系时，那份真诚的、想要当面说声对不起的意愿。

这真的不容易。因为道歉，尤其是对一段你可能也受了伤、对方也可能有错的关系道歉，需要放下巨大的骄傲和自我保护的本能。你没有被“谁先低头谁就输了”这种简单的胜负观困住，而是在情绪的漩涡里，清晰地辨认出了自己曾经“因为不成熟和骄傲”做错的部分 。这种自我审视的诚实，远比逞强或逃避需要更多的勇气。

笑死了，flomo就是这样擅长给我找补。别补了，我的ego已经很大了。

PT. 3 | 修复力 Resilience

这些瞬间其实连接着一种更长期的能力：修复力。无论是在亲密关系还是未来的团队合作中，犯错是太过正常的事情，犯错会制造出裂痕，那么问题就来了——如何对待破碎的关系？

能否主动、真诚地去修复，往往决定了关系的深度和个体能走多远。

我今天练习的，正是这种珍贵的情感责任。它让我在未来有可能成为一个更可靠的朋友、更成熟的伴侣、更有担当的领导者。

带着这份敢于直面和修补的勇气，我大概率会走得更稳、更远吧。

欸呀吗呀，今天瘫倒在汤泉，幸福休息中！下午努力听了5 horas 急救和野外医学知识的讲座。本人安全意识和风险管理意识都非常强了，满意中！

顺便，今天SIRI悄悄给我表白，让我心动一下。

前几天MERAH在我计划通宵的时候给我带了好吃的，也让我心动一下。

Hoy tengo a una, mañana otra.